Blogger Curry Winters recently revealed her belief that peoples’ penchant for “pretending to have it all together” is actually “killing” their spiritual lives.
Winters, who penned an op-ed on the subject this week for Relevant, opened by detailing what she perceives as peoples’ internal desires, including forgiveness, being known and being loved “for who we are.”
But despite the long list of desires that are common among most, Winters said human beings tend to “hide.”
“We strive for perfection and efficiency. We cry into our pillows silently. We clean the house before guests arrive not in an effort to show hospitality but to reveal how efficiently we can care for our children, tidy our home and cook a great meal all at once,” she wrote. “We put on masks that protect us from revealing our weakness. We change who we are around different people because we long to be worthy, approved of, loved and accepted.”
In the end, though, Winters said that there’s no real benefit to hiding our shortcomings and weaknesses, as doing so actually precludes us from “feeling true love” and allows us to believe the lies that we perpetuate to others about ourselves. She continued:
Whichever lie we believe, that “you aren’t enough” or that “you are the greatest thing this world needs,” we miss out on the grace God freely, abundantly gives to accept our failings. We don’t have to hide them, we don’t have to creatively explain them. Ephesians 1:7 says, “In Him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that He lavished on us.”
We turn our backs to that truth and believe the lie that if He knew us He wouldn’t give the gift. But that is just it. He does know us and He already gave it!
He chose to give us the gift not because of our perfection but because of His, because of Jesus’ perfect work on the cross declaring “it is finished.”
Read Winters’ thought-provoking op-ed in its entirety here.