Pop megastar Justin Bieber appears to be taking the whole marriage preparation thing very seriously. After being spotted in a tearful moment with his fiance, Haily Baldwin, earlier this week, it appears Bieber is keen to glean some wisdom from New York pastor, Tim Keller. He was spotted with a copy of Keller’s book “The Meaning of Marriage” under his arm while hanging out in New York Wednesday.
When photographers and fans asked how Bieber and Baldwin were doing following their overtly emotional moment, Justin simply held up the book for paparazzi to snap a pic. “This,” he said, pointing to the book. “You got good days and you got bad days,” the musician told TMZ as he left Hailey’s apartment building.
“It’s not real if it doesn’t have any bad days,” Bieber added, gesturing that this was one nugget of advice he had garnered from Keller’s book. The well-respected pastor is the founder of New York’s “Redeemer Presbyterian Church” and is an internationally renowned preacher and speaker on Christian apologetics.
The book Bieber is referring to is a common read for Christian couples whoa re getting ready to tie the knot. “The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope,” Keller writes in the popular work.
As for the remark Bieber made about the inevitability of having “bad days” when it comes to any romantic relationship, you can see exactly where he got this from in Keller’s writings.
Was gonna wait a while to say anything but word travels fast, listen plain and simple Hailey I am soooo in love with everything about you! So committed to spending my life getting to know every single part of you loving you patiently and kindLY. I promise to lead our family with honor and integrity letting Jesus through his Holy Spirit guide us in everything we do and every decision we make. My heart is COMPLETELY and FULLY YOURS and I will ALWAYS put you first! You are the love of my life Hailey Baldwin and I wouldn’t want to spend it with anybody else. You make me so much better and we compliment eachother so well!! Can’t wait for the best season of life yet!. It’s funny because now with you everything seems to make sense! The thing I am most excited for is that my little brother and sister get to see another healthy stable marriage and look for the same!!! Gods timing really is literally perfect, we got engaged on the seventh day of the seventh month, the number seven is the number of spiritual perfection, it’s true GOOGLE IT! Isn’t that nuts? By the way I didn’t plan that, anyways My goodness does feel good to have our future secured! WERE GONNA BE BETTER AT 70 BABY HERE WE GO! “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains FAVOR from the Lord!” This is the year of favor!!!!
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up,” the pastor writes. “And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love.”
“So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
But don’t mistake Bieber’s recent emotional state for unhappiness. It appears to be quite the contrary. “Justin being emotional has nothing to do with him not being happy. It’s the opposite. He is the happiest he has ever been,” said a source close to the star, according to PEOPLE. “He wonders if he deserves the happiness, and that’s partly why he is emotional.”
One thing is sure, Bieber is setting himself up for an enduring marriage that set to impact millions for Jesus. Of course, they will face adversity, but they appear to be determined to get the best start possible.
“If your marriage is strong, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are filled with trouble and weakness, it won’t matter,” Keller declares
It’s so good to see Bieber getting some sound, godly counsel before he makes the biggest commitment of his life! Let’s pray for the couple as they enter into this new phase.